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7 Reasons People Stay With A Cheating Partner

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Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear. Five months ago, my long-term girlfriend cheated on me. Our relationship had broken down due to poor communication, working too much, resentment, etc. While I was the one cheated on, I now fully acknowledge the part we both played, and after a period of acute anger, I came to the conclusion that I still love my girlfriend, and that I was as angry at the infidelity as at the fact that we had let the relationship get as low as it did.

She also expressed deep regret, sorrow, and self-loathing for her actions. We had several long heart-to-heart conversations over the following weeks, and those conversations taught me new things about her.

My real issue is this: The person she cheated with is a co-worker of mine. We are in the same large department, and I still see him often in the common areas. In fact, just seeing him has a visceral effect on me. My breathing increases; my heart races. Neither do I. What should I do? First, you should know that your reaction is completely understandable in the aftermath of infidelity. I use the word trauma because while most people can easily imagine or are personally acquainted with the pain of being cheated on, what some may not realize is that many betrayed partners experience symptoms of PTSD.

Some of these symptoms are irritability, insomnia, hypervigilance, and difficulty concentrating. Part of what makes infidelity so devastating is that it involves multiple levels of betrayal. Yes, your girlfriend betrayed your trust, and the two of you are working through that together. You may be thinking, Wait, I barely know this co-worker. After all, this person never made a commitment to you.

Only your partner did. The other person involved in infidelity, even if that person is single and available and has little or no connection to the betrayed partner, is complicit in the betrayal. Presumably, your co-worker knew that the woman he was having sex with was your girlfriend.

All I want to say is that your part in what happened hurt me deeply, and I thought you should know. The people who hurt us are never dead to us; even worse, they haunt us if we let them. But like an effective pressure valve, speaking the unspeakable to him will help to release some of the tension.

This speaks to the strength of your relationship, and freeing up some emotional real estate by giving less of it to your co-worker will only help you and your girlfriend continue to move forward together. Dear Therapist is for informational purposes only, does not constitute medical advice, and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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She Cheated On Me But I Still Love Her

Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear. Five months ago, my long-term girlfriend cheated on me.

If you have ever uncovered the painful truth that the person you feel you love is cheating on you, you probably asked yourself: What am I supposed to do now? What should my response be to this betrayal?

She would lie r ight to me saying no. The break up was easy compared to the cheating part. I feel betrayed embarrassed, my dignities been taken from me. Picking up the pieces.

Why do I still love her after she cheated on me?

If you've ever been cheated on, you know there's no shortage of opinions on what you should do next. But ultimately, your next move shouldn't be decided by outsiders, however well-meaning they may be. Only you know what's best for you -- and sometimes, that's remaining in the relationship. Below, Redditors who were cheated on explain why they stayed with their S. Because they were still in love. She ended up leaving me down the road and her unfaithfulness was a contributor to her decision. I'm glad she did, because I would've stayed with her but it was never the same. To this day, the person I miss is not the woman who left me at the end of it. Because they were naive.

Cheating Girlfriend! She Cheated On Me But I Still Love Her. What To Do?

I've been dating my girlfriend for seven years and I plan to marry her, but recently, I learned that she cheated on me about a year ago on two separate occasions. She was living abroad for a few months and during that time, she was with two different guys, including one who was married. During that time, she also stopped talking to me. I'm very disturbed.

But things are not as simple as that in your head.

I imagine your stomach feels like it just got ripped clean out. I should know. She already did it. So once you know the answer, continue on below.

What to do if you cheated on your girlfriend but still want to be with her

Editor's Note: Every Monday, Lori Gottlieb answers questions from readers about their problems, big and small. Have a question? Email her at dear.

Follow these tips. Man up and own your mistake. Accept that and brace yourself for some serious anger. You crossed a line and broke a serious promise. Just answer her need-to-know questions. Some hard and fast rules: Never confess or apologize over the phone, via text, or phone call.

Dear Therapist: My Girlfriend Had an Affair With My Co-worker

By Chris Seiter. When your ex-girlfriend cheats on you it is massive betrayal of trust. Your ex abused and disrespected your loyalty in favour of another man. It has you feeling angry with her, him, and with yourself. The thrill with emotional cheating is psychological. Cheating physically can exist with or without the emotional aspect. It includes any type of relationship where the relationship is physical, sex, making out, even something as simple as kissing.

Aug 27, - I found out my girlfriend of 7 years cheated on me twice. I want to forgive and trust her again, but is that even possible? Julia Naftulin I still love her, but is it possible to ever trust her again? - Dublin. Dear Dublin,. It's never.

We may wish that when someone causes us pain, we'd automatically stop having feelings for them. But this is never the case. Even if our feelings seem to have turned to hatred rather than love, they are still feelings, and they are still for that person. There are many ways lovers hurt one another and infidelity can be the most painful. You may feel inadequate or weak for not being able to satisfy your partner and maintain the relationship.

She Cheated On Me, Why Do I Still Love Her?

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My Girlfriend Cheated on Me – What Should I do?

 Si, - сказал Беккер.  - Solo. - Echo un poco de Smirnoff? - настаивал бармен.  - Плеснуть чуточку водки.

Бринкерхофф ухмыльнулся. Деньги налогоплательщиков в действии.

 - А что ты скажешь о проверках пределов памяти, которые мы выполняли. Сьюзан пожала плечами. - Ну, если вы имеете в виду и диагностику, то времени уходило. - Насколько .

Она взглянула на работающий монитор. Он по-прежнему показывал время, превышающее пятнадцать часов. Даже если файл Танкадо будет прочитан прямо сейчас, это все равно будет означать, что АНБ идет ко дну. С такими темпами шифровалка сумеет вскрывать не больше двух шифров в сутки. В то время как даже при нынешнем рекорде - сто пятьдесят вскрытых шифров в день - они не успевают расшифровывать всю перехватываемую информацию. - Танкадо звонил мне в прошлом месяце, - сказал Стратмор, прервав размышления Сьюзан.

На ее пальце было не кольцо Танкадо. Это было другое кольцо - платиновое, с крупным сверкающим бриллиантом. Сьюзан охнула. Дэвид посмотрел ей в глаза: - Ты выйдешь за меня замуж.

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